Film director Kevin Smith is a big guy and his size got him booted off a Southwestern Airlines flight. The airplane servants thought he was too heavy — even though he could fasten his seat belt, even though he could put down the armrests, meeting the airline’s own criteria.
His removal has stirred up a bit of debate, especially as Smith, who is also known for his character role Silent Bob from films like “Dogma,” has issued a string of irritated Tweets.
I felt bad for Smith. He admits he is fat, but his weight really isn’t a safety concern on flights. He didn’t deserve the boot.
Booting “Bob,” frankly, makes me mad because it makes me feel that society looks down on those of us who are heavy — those of us who don’t fit into the ideal picture of health and size.
What is worse than Smith’s rejection was the discussion that followed. CNN’s “Anderson Cooper 360” did a segment about the Smith Incident. It included panelists vocalizing on both sides of the argument. An at-home audience asked if the airlines should simply add larger seats for passengers who are fat. One panelist Peggy Howell, who represented the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance, liked the idea. She even said one group of interior designers had developed redesigned airplane layouts that included larger seats
OK, cool. I could live with larger seats.
But then this advocate for National Activists Against Obesity, Meme Roth, said that other passengers and airlines shouldn’t subsidize a lifestyle choice.
Lifestyle choice! Seriously?
I just couldn’t believe that someone who is trying to make the world healthier would say something like that. It isn’t like I decided to take illegal drugs or be devoted to only my religion.
I started looking at her Web site. It focuses on food and efforts to ban junk food. And from her TV talk I got the feeling she just blamed people for having bad eating habits and food choices. I keep thinking she believes fat people just sit on their butts and shovel food in their mouths all day.
As someone who struggles with weight, I know that food and habits have a big role in my being overweight. But it’s not just a lifestyle choice for everyone.
Some people have glandular and metabolism problems. Some people eat because of mental health issues. Right or wrong, it’s how they deal with fear, loneliness, depression — or to simply cope.
I don’t know a single fat person who just sits at the table and eats. I know even though I don’t always make the best choices, I still try. Just about every heavy-set person I know tries to eat healthier.
It can be agonizing.
We don’t choose to be fat. We don’t get up in the morning and say “I’m going to eat my weight in McDonald food today.”
We know we are heavy because we have made some bad choices, because of what was easy, available or even cheap. We aren’t happy about it, which incidentally leads some us (including myself) to eat more. Food is a crutch. It makes us feel better. Food is an enemy. It rules our lives.
Being thin isn’t as easy as banning junk food from schools or making transfats illegal. After all, fruit is full of sugar, too. Should I stop eating fruit?
I know activists like Meme mean well as they target the obesity epidemic. But they don’t get it. They want to label it a lifestyle choice without fully understanding why some of us eat. Why some of us are fat. Why some of us spend every minute thinking about what we are going to eat and what people are thinking as they see us eat.
No, Meme, it isn’t a choice. It’s a daily battle.